After watching the movie “The Secret Life of Bees” and in the midst of sobbing, I told my husband that I wanted a mother. He replied that I should find one – only half jokingly. Where do I find a older than me (age 66), wise, loving woman who would consider adopting me for the rest of one of our lives? I really am not joking. I need a substitute mother – like the three substitite mothers that Lily found in the move.