This is hard for me to believe, but I just today realized that when I am hurt, instead of crying (which is very painful for me sometimes), I lash out at someone else – often my husband. Psych. 101!!! I’ve been feeling angry and definitely hurt about living in this unfriendly and unwelcoming town – again! So, I find myself snapping at my husband instead of admitting to myself that these “current events” are bringing up my feelings of being unloved and unwanted and unsupported as a child. I even realized that I did the same thing as a teenager. I snapped at my siblings and parents – to cover up the pain I couldn’t begin to admit at the time. OK – so it is Psych. 101 – I’m feeling the feelings now and not just reading about the concept in a “self-help” book. I know all of this intellectually, but that part is easy compared to actually feeling this pain and trying not to project it onto someone else.